Overcoming Loneliness and Supporting Others
- YouFirst Chairs
- Oct 27
- 3 min read
Understanding Loneliness
Loneliness isn’t just about being alone — it’s the feeling of being disconnected or unseen, even when surrounded by others. It can affect people of all ages but often becomes more noticeable during major life changes such as retirement, bereavement, health issues, or moving to a new area.
Recognising these feelings is an important first step. Loneliness is not a weakness — it’s a normal human experience, and with time, small steps can make a big difference.
Loneliness in Later Life
As we get older, it’s natural for social circles to change. Friends may move away, loved ones may pass on, and mobility or confidence can make getting out harder.
Older people may experience loneliness when:
They’ve stopped driving or using public transport.
Hearing or sight loss makes communication difficult.
They’re living alone after losing a partner.
They feel disconnected from their community or social activities.
Even small barriers like poor weather or reduced confidence can add to isolation. However, there are many ways to stay active, connected, and supported.
If You’re Feeling Lonely
You are not alone — and there are practical things you can do to start feeling more connected.
1. Try a New Activity or Group
Local clubs, social groups, and community cafés can help you meet people with shared interests. Art, walking, singing, or reading groups are a great start.
2. Volunteer Your Time
Helping others can give a real sense of purpose and often leads to new friendships.
3. Reconnect with Old Hobbies
Pick up an activity you once enjoyed — it can reignite confidence and boost mood.
4. Use Technology to Stay in Touch
Video calls, social media, and online groups can help when you can’t get out easily. Many libraries and charities offer free digital support sessions.
5. Get Outdoors
Fresh air, daylight, and gentle activity all help mental wellbeing. Even a short daily walk can make a big difference.
6. Talk About How You Feel
Opening up to someone you trust can ease the burden. Sometimes just saying “I’ve been feeling a bit lonely lately” can start a positive change.
Supporting Someone Who May Be Lonely
Sometimes people don’t say they’re lonely — but you might notice changes that suggest they’re struggling.
Recognising the Signs
They rarely leave the house or join activities.
They seem less interested in self-care or food.
They talk less or sound more negative than usual.
Their daily routine has changed significantly.
How You Can Help
Keep in touch regularly, even with a quick call or message.
Suggest short outings such as a walk, tea, or lunch.
Offer to accompany them to a local group or class.
Be patient and understanding — sometimes loneliness takes time to overcome.
Encourage them to talk to their GP or a trusted professional if they’re really struggling.
Even small gestures — like dropping off a note, remembering birthdays, or simply asking how they’re doing — can mean the world.
When Loneliness Affects Wellbeing
If loneliness begins to affect sleep, appetite, or mood, it may be time to seek extra help. These can be signs of depression or anxiety, which are common and treatable.
Speaking to a GP or local community team can connect you to social prescribing schemes or local befriending services designed to help.
Support Lines and Helpful Organisations
There are free and confidential helplines available for anyone who feels lonely or isolated.
Age UK Advice Line
confidential advice on wellbeing, loneliness, and independent living.🌐 www.ageuk.org.uk
The Silver Line Helpline
📞 0800 4 70 80 90Open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
A friendly, confidential chat line for older people who just want to talk.
Samaritans
📞 116 123Available 24/7, free from any phone.
For anyone feeling distressed, lonely, or struggling to cope.
Mind
📞 0300 123 3393 or text 86463
Mental health support and guidance for anyone feeling low or anxious.🌐 www.mind.org.uk
NHS 111 (Option 2)
24-hour mental health support line for anyone in England. They can connect you directly with local crisis or listening services.
Ways to Reconnect Locally
Check your library noticeboards for free meetups and social groups.
Explore community centres, churches, or local cafés with open mornings.
Ask your council or local charities about befriending programmes — volunteers who call or visit regularly.
Join gentle exercise groups, such as seated yoga or walking clubs, which combine physical and social benefits.
Look for inter-generational projects that bring together younger and older people to share experiences.
Final Thoughts
Loneliness can happen to anyone — but it doesn’t have to stay that way. Reaching out, trying something new, or accepting help can begin to rebuild confidence and connection.
Whether it’s joining a group, making one phone call, or simply saying hello to a neighbour, every small step matters.
You are not alone — support is always available, and change is always possible.
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